tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post1812977952099393088..comments2023-08-25T05:15:13.809-04:00Comments on Wabisabi Mama: On infant sleep training: crying foulMamaQhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08247948391641988512noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-58946798883883561452011-02-14T15:25:14.225-05:002011-02-14T15:25:14.225-05:00for my new years resolution i decided to stop nigh...for my new years resolution i decided to stop night feeding my almost 18 month old. IT had become a sleep prop. It took 10 days of me offering her some water in a bottle and rocking in a rocking chair for a little while until she got it. <br /><br />Like you said I too had babys that slept through the night until they got teeth, colds etc and I too did control crying 2/3 times and they would just fall out of routine again.. all my four children have been early risers and I always feel sad when people say their kid sleeps till 8am and often has to be woken :)<br /><br />Your not alone. Many parents keep it as their secret. Plus I've heard of a mother that would say their kid slept all night in their own bed but she spent half the night on the floor next to her coaxing her back to sleep.. or to the parents that take 'sleeping thru the night' to mean they slept for 5 hours...This Girl loves to Talkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810963456640254875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-47365107019244718952011-02-06T19:17:01.658-05:002011-02-06T19:17:01.658-05:00Isaac and Daniel Cook and sylvia: the No-Cry Sleep...Isaac and Daniel Cook and sylvia: the No-Cry Sleep Solution was written by a co-sleeping mother to four kids. It provides flexible solutions for all types of moms, whether co-sleeping, crib sleeping, breastfeeding or bottle feeding. So you may want to check it out; the author was able to get her co-sleeping baby to sleep through the whole night, so there is hope!<br /><br />Ye Stewart Clan, I hope your baby figures out those joints soon! Unless he starts bending them the wrong way to climb OUT of the crib...MamaMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05881009388717157217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-47423616164694833552011-02-04T19:39:24.942-05:002011-02-04T19:39:24.942-05:00Oh sleep deprivation! I wish I had answers but I ...Oh sleep deprivation! I wish I had answers but I don't. It seems if my 8 month old sleeps well my 4 year old doesn't or vice-versa. My 8 month old recently learned to stand up in his crib but doesn't know how to sit down. So he'll stand there for what seems like forever crying until I come and lay him back down with his binky and blankey. I am working on teaching him the magic of his joints and that yes he can bend his knees and hips. And then my 4 year old will like just randomly wake up and walk to my bedside and be like, "Mom, will you get me a band aid? I hurt my finger." I'll look at the clock and it will be 3:30 am. What the heck? When I go to bed each night I have no idea what awaits me...Ye Stewart Clanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09243317800537483537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-82349020121439761032011-02-04T16:56:04.492-05:002011-02-04T16:56:04.492-05:00thanks so much for sharing this. my boy is 15 mont...thanks so much for sharing this. my boy is 15 months and he wakes up every 2-3 hours, though at the moment he's teathing so i'm "living" with it. i was thinking of getting the book you mentioned, we co-sleep for the second half of the night, when i take him into our bed because i know he will wake up at least 2 more times. he still nurses himself to sleep though or needs a lot of rocking. some days i'm ok with it, others just wish he would wean, for some reason i am thinking it has to do with the fact that he still nurses. in any case, it is SO refreshing to read of mums with children who don't sleep through the night because just like you i feel i am surrounded by mums who's children do and they brag about it. so, thanks!sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06663728252462007148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-3876795051570165272011-02-04T07:54:18.020-05:002011-02-04T07:54:18.020-05:00I co-sleep and I am still totally sleep deprived. ...I co-sleep and I am still totally sleep deprived. Even when you co-sleep you still have to wake up and nurse - and my chubby guy wants a lot of milk. My baby is only 3 months so I nurse him a lot. I just plan on not sleeping well for a year to 18 months. Sounds miserable but it goes quickly, too quickly. This is my 4th and probably my last so I'm treasuring his infancy. I guess that means I'll be tired for most of it:)Michelle https://www.blogger.com/profile/05124219665587194341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-43104143801618949532011-02-04T06:43:16.880-05:002011-02-04T06:43:16.880-05:00MamaM, I hope this proves to be the solution for y...MamaM, I hope this proves to be the solution for your family. <br />Like MamaQ, we are co-sleeping, and have since birth. It works wonderfully for us, because although Bub still wakes occasionally in the night, it is usually just for a quick wee (we practice elimination communication), then straight back to sleep. Most nights I sleep right through, even if he wakes and helps himself to milk!<br />If your latest strategy brings no relief, I am more than happy to discuss our situation with you. I know that all any of us want sometimes is a good night's sleep!<br /><br />Thank you for your honesty on such an emotive topic.<br /><br />All the best,<br />xx LuAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-34018420359051058962011-02-03T22:35:07.211-05:002011-02-03T22:35:07.211-05:00Thanks for the comment, Jane. I have put three obj...Thanks for the comment, Jane. I have put three objects in Olive's crib lately--a pillow doll, a tag blanket and teddy bear "lovey." That was a suggestion in the book that I forgot to mention, but I'm still hesitant about the idea, only because I know some children who become REALLY attached to these night-time items and throw ginormous fits when they don't have them. Olive has attached mostly to the doll, so I better buy a couple more just in case!<br /><br />Co-sleeping would never work for our family like it has for Q's; I'm certain I would be getting less sleep if Olive were in bed with us, so hopefully things continue to go well with this method.MamaMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05881009388717157217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-39717248802864035672011-02-03T22:29:08.892-05:002011-02-03T22:29:08.892-05:00M, i know you've been struggling with this for...M, i know you've been struggling with this for a while and i hope that this turns out to be the solution that works for you. as you know, i opted to co-sleep with mayumi, partly because it was the most effective way for me to get enough sleep. when you are sleep deprived, everything feels off-balance and problems seem to be bigger than they might actually be. nursing was definitely a "crutch" but it was something i was fine with and we tackled that along with weaning at the same time. i don't think i'd do things differently, but i know everyone has to find what works best for them and their baby.MamaQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08247948391641988512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-82185497124777952062011-02-03T17:24:35.477-05:002011-02-03T17:24:35.477-05:00I am glad you are finding a solution that works fo...I am glad you are finding a solution that works for your daughter and family! I think a good night's sleep is so important for everyone.<br /><br />With our three boys, we have found that giving them a particular object (or several) that are just for bed, and associated with sleep, helped a lot. For our first, that was a dummy (pacifier). He was colicky and used it a lot in his early months, but after that we quickly made it just for bed, and it worked almost like a magic sleep switch! We would put several in his bed so he could always find one. With our second, very early on he loved feeling and clutching the muslin wraps we used. As we gradually stopped wrapping him for sleep, he began cuddling the wraps as a comfort item. So we decided those would be his bedtime comfort item. With our third, we've gone with the wraps as well. We have quite a collection now and sometimes he has four or five in bed with him! As I understand it, part of the ability to fall asleep, and go back to sleep after the regular half-wake stages throughout the night at the beginning/end of sleep cycles, people need sleep 'cues'. I.e. familiar surroundings - smells, feelings, objects, whatever they have become used to. If they're not there, we find it hard to re-settle. (I say 'we' because it's really the same with adults.) <br /><br />Sorry, this has turned into a very long comment! In the end, what I mean to say is, does Olive have a particular comfort item that she sleeps with? It may not work for everyone but it has for us. Also, I recommend it be something easily replaced, and that you can buy a number of in case of losses, need for washing etc!Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03255370960186659884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782269058741241023.post-44870959251405530712011-02-03T09:00:56.083-05:002011-02-03T09:00:56.083-05:00I am so proud of you that your figured out the ki...I am so proud of you that your figured out the kinder and effective method for Olive!!!Kumihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12929311349087411124noreply@blogger.com