Monday, March 15, 2010

More spring sprucing

Like M, I have little messes that have been going neglected recently:





It's not just about the disheveled sloppiness of it, but it's dirty. My house needs to be vacuumed and dusted, the bathrooms need to be cleaned.

But it is starting to feel like spring and I would rather be doing this:

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Spring cleaning

While this time of year finds MamaQ wanting to prep her garden, I find myself with a serious case of spring cleaning fever. Maybe it's because I'm spending a lot more time at home with a new baby or maybe it's because the Utah weather has been unseasonably warm, but I want to clean!

My friend got me a cleaning lady as a welcome-new-baby-and-destress-new-mama gift (best gift ever!) so I'll be utilizing that service next week. (Can't wait to have her wipe down the blinds and get those pesky oil splashes off my kitchen cabinets.) That leaves me with more time to do organizational projects, like purging this horrendous closet (or rather getting my husband to clean out this closet, since 90% of its contents belong to him).


Other tasks include cleaning out my clothes closet and making another donation to the local thrift store, organizing the pantry and my spice cabinet (am I obsessive compulsive or do other people do that too?), and putting up more racks in the garage so I can transfer belongings inside to out. Oh, and hang those pictures in Olive's room that have been leaning against the wall for, oh, about two months now...

Anyone else got the bug?

Friday, March 12, 2010

Oishii: When I'm hungry...

By MamaQ

I love eating.  Food is such an intrinsic pleasure of living, no?  Of course, I love Japanese food, along with any other kind of delicous and satisfying cuisine.  I have my go-to recipes that are staples in our family, but I suspect that there are secrets out there.  You know, simple, delicious meals that are staples in your home that I don't know about.  And I want to know about them.  What do you cook?  Where do you get your recipes?  What are your culinary influences?  Will you please share?

It's only fair that I reciprocate, so in addition to sharing my own family recipes on this blog, I'll also let you know of a place I like to visit to get good ideas and recipes for Japanese food: Just Hungry. The author, Makiko, does an excellent job of explaining ingredients and cooking techniques.  You should check it out if you're interested in Japanese food.

Now, your turn.  Please share!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Happy Birthday MamaM!

Wabisabi Brother, MamaM, MamaQ (MamaD was still a baby)
MamaM, Wabisabi Brother, MamaQ (Where is MamaD?)

By MamaQ and MamaD

Q: When MamaM was born she was considered the cutest baby on the planet. I'm pretty sure this was common consensus.

D: It's just because she was so chubby...and still is! Just kidding!! But she does have the most well-endowed bosom of the family. And she is lucky to have such big eyes which I have always been jealous of and that baby Olive has definitely inherited.

Q: One of my strongest memories of MamaM is when she was about 4 and MamaD was 3. Because they were so close in age they were always playing together and one morning MamaD came to my mother screaming and crying, with blood dripping from her mouth. MamaM was not far behind, in tears. Apparently MamaD had been running with a chopstick in her mouth and fallen. The chopstick had pierced the roof of her mouth (nothing too deep, but enough to draw blood). At first Mom assumed M had pushed MamaD or done something to cause the accident because she was crying so hard, but it turned out M was crying for MamaD and was upset to see her baby sister hurt. That's the kind of girl M is - super compassionate.

D: Wha? I don't remember it happening that way - but then again, I may have been too preoccupied with the chopstick in my mouth to notice M's empathy. I do remember crying when MamaQ slapped M across the face one time - I thought I was the empathetic one. But enough of my own self-absorbed thoughts - what I also remember is how mischievous M was - she blamed me for eating the cheese that our mom didn't want us to eat for some reason and I took the punishment. She tricked me into cleaning her mess because I wanted to be a maid and she told me that I needed to practice and probably gave me a dime. And one time, she even punched me in the nose just because I dared her. And this other time, I was so mad at her (I can't even remember why) and I was trying to hit her and she just held my head with her outstretched arm while I violently flailed my arms in the air...so I actually don't have a ton of fond memories of her as a young child....

Q: I hardly believe that - you were always together.  You were best friends! I missed out on all that stuff because I was so much older and more mature! (Ha!) Wait, I have another story about M that is actually quite funny. Once, after we had just come home from church, Wabisabi Brother noticed that there was a silver dollar-sized bald patch on M's head. Someone had cut a chunck of hair off. M touched the spot in disbelief and started crying - she was about 7(?) and old enough to be vain. She said that one of the kids from church must've cut it off. We were all baffled until Wabisabi Brother found a clump of hair in the trash can in her bedroom. Then the real story came out; I had done her hair that morning (took a curling iron to her bangs) and in an appropriately 80's fervor had Aqua Netted it to a stiff statuesque 'do. At some point she had gotten annoyed with the stickiness of it, and unaware of what she was actually doing, had taken a pair of scissors to it. Of course I got blamed for the entire incident and poor M had to suffer through 1st grade with a crazy cowlick. Classic M.

D: Oh, we had lot of good times - playing endlessly long games of Monopoly late into the night in the summer and having fashion shows with all our new clothes before school started. That was one of the greatest highlights of having a sister at that time - double the wardrobe!! And M has always had (and still has) a really great fashion sense. As we got into middle school and high school, being only a grade apart, I started to realize how cool she was and we had many of the same friends and did all the same sports. It was awesome to play field hockey and run track together. We went on a trip to Utah and Japan all by ourselves and it would have been so lonely without her.

Q: I always envied how close the two of you were.

D: Now, I consider M as much a friend as a sister. Sisters make good friends.

Q: Amen, sistah.

D: We do a lot of dinners together and it's so nice to have her relatively close (although now, I wish we could live next door to each other for our babies to play). Sorry MamaQ, that you can't be part of all our fun.

Q: Tell me about it... though I'm afraid as much as I adore both of you, I'm not quite ready to give up city-living to move to the desert.

D: Birthdays have always been really low-key in our family and we're not very mushy or sappy with our feelings. But M should know that she is one of the best persons that I know. I've always admired her and she is endlessly patient with my incessant rambling, a good listener, incredibly organized, thoughtful, intelligent, hardworking, down-to-earth, honest, grounded, and not afraid to tell it like it is - which all more than makes up for what a crappy cook she is.

Q: Oh, cut her a break! She's not that bad. And truth is, it's probably her only fault, if you can even call it that. To know M is to love her - she is just one of those people that everyone likes and everyone wants to be like. So we celebrate her presence in the world. Happy birthday, MamaM. We love you and are so grateful for your friendship, inspiration, and sisterhood in our lives. And all those crazy memories!
Have a wonderful day!



Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Gratitudes

Ever notice how somethings are almost magical in the way they are able to warm your heart and soul?  This morning was magical like that.  A butterfly fluttering by your shoulder.  Warm sun on your barefeet.  Picnic lunch with friends.  Children's laughter.  Am feeling so, so grateful that spring is on its way!


Some such Butterfly be seen
On Brazilian Pampas --
Just at noon -- no later -- Sweet --
Then -- the License closes --

Some such Spice -- express and pass --
Subject to Your Plucking --
As the Stars -- You knew last Night --
Foreigners -- This Morning --

~Emily Dickinson

Homemade: Wrapped Tins

I'm not a packrat in the least, but I hate throwing things away that could be reused, hence this great and easy project that recycles those hot cocoa containers or tubs of cleaning wipes. They make great gift containers that your friends will be super impressed with!


All it takes is a little paper, ribbon and Mod Podge. Just glue and wrap the paper, do the same for the ribbon (you may need a little help from the glue gun) and--voila!--beautiful gift tins for any occasion. So easy and so cute. Here are my creations:

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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

One Week!

By MamaQ

See this pile of dowdy old nursing bras?  They are headed for storage. 
Because it has been one week since I have breastfed Mayumi. 

Yes, one week!  I'm not sure if it is a cause for celebration or mourning.  We cut down slowly and then stopped.  My heart aches sometimes when Maya still begs for it, but then she'll say something adorable like "I want to be a big sister" and I know that it is the right time.  The whole process was less painful than I anticipated (physically and emotionally).  The silver lining?  Besides being ready to start our next round of IVF treatment, I can start wearing my cute bras again! 

Not that anyone else but me (and occasionally Mr. Q, but not as often as we'd like!) is seeing them.  But I've been amazed at how much... sexier I feel knowing I'm wearing a lacy little number under my clothes.  And that is a good thing, especially when you're trying to get pregnant!

Today, the leapoard print.  Meow!

Monday, March 8, 2010

Bad mommy

By MamaM

My new mama confession: I sometimes watch TV when breastfeeding. Okay, I often watch TV when breastfeeding.

For the first few weeks, I diligently sat in my glider in the nursery, feeding Olive. I had read that this was the time to bond with your baby as you gaze into each other's eyes and are belly to belly. But Olive didn't really look into my eyes; in fact, most of the time, her eyes were closed. And even if she were to stare at me, with sessions lasting upwards of 45 minutes (people, she's a total piglet) I think I'd still be nodding off in the dim light of her nursery. My hands were tied up, so I couldn't hold a book to read (I don't know how some moms do this). Plus, I was constantly worried that I would fall asleep while feeding Olive, accidentally drop her on the floor and give her some horrible disformity.

What was a new mom to do?

One night when my hubby woke up to put the baby back to sleep, he went downstairs and watched TV to pass the time as he rocked her.

How come I never thought of doing that?

It was about this time that the Olympics started and I often found myself on the couch, Boppy in lap, baby on Boppy and remote control by my side. Sometimes I would get so caught up in that crazy giant slalom (or whatever it's called) that I didn't notice my nipple had fallen out of Olive's mouth and I'd start apologizing to the little one for being such a bad mommy.

But really, I don't feel like a bad mommy. Breastfeeding has not yet been a bonding experience for Olive and me, and I'm not sure it ever will be. In fact, I kind of dread it because my nipples still haven't adjusted and give me a good deal of pain when Olive latches on hard (she gave me a blood blister the other day!).

Don't get me wrong: I feel good that I am able to give my baby sustenance and I like holding her close to me, but I think I will fall in love with her as we spend time together doing a variety of things every day, not just breastfeeding.

My point is that I initially felt a little guilty about my nursing technique, but quickly got over it. I'll continue to have the boob tube on during some of our nursing sessions, at least while she's still new. (Olive's facing me and I keep the volume on the TV barely audible, so I don't feel like I'm rotting her brain just yet...)

There are so many expectations of women and mothers, but we each need to find what works for us. What's important to me is that I'm nourishing my daughter while finding a way to keep me satisfied as well.

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Meditation: Nurturing through food

By MamaM

You know all those oishii recipes on this blog? They're mostly done by Mamas Q and D. I have to admit that when it's my turn to post a recipe, I get less than excited. I'm not a good cook. I never have been. Somehow, I always find a way to mess up a recipe--even if I follow the instructions exactly!

I've never taken much time to cook. (I really don't know what I've eaten all these years; certainly not very many homecooked meals.) Until just a few weeks ago, it was only DaddyM and me. It's hard to cook for two, plus I've been busy throughout the years with work, working out, MBA school and volunteer service, among other things.

But now that I'm reducing my hours as a public relations manager to part-time, I've vowed to cook at least three meals a week. That might sound pathetic to some of you, but will be a real challenge for me!

As I was looking through my Barefoot Contessa cookbook (the first time I've ever done that), I came across this quotation by its author in the introduction:










































Food is about more than dinner. It's about coming home and being taken care of. It's about Mom. I actually think that the food our mothers made may not be what we are nostalgic for. It's more an emotional picture of a mother who was always there, knew what we needed, loved us, let us run free when we wanted to explore. Food is about nurturing: not only physical but also emotional nurturing.

I love this insight. I want my children to remember me as a mother who fed them physically, emotionally and spiritually. I want to nurture them and spend time talking at the dinner table. I want my kids to know one way I express my love is through feeding them delicious, healthy (and maybe occasionally not-so-healthy!) food. I want them to long for my yakisoba and apple pie the way I long for my mother's!

We all know food is one way t0 bring families together and I'm looking forward to being able to do this with my own family.

Splurging

We mamas are frugalistas and proud of it. We love getting deals and don't usually buy expensive clothes, but I have to admit I spent $70 on a nursing bra recently.

Is that a lot of money to anyone else?

I rarely shop at Nordstrom, but went there on the recommendation of another mom after being frustrated with not being able to find a good nursing bra (as a fuller-breasted mama, it is really hard to find one with good combo of support and coverage). I was sized and fitted and got a really great (albeit granny-looking) bra. And though I might be able to buy three bras for $70 elsewhere, I think it was worth it.



I originally was going to call this post "Indulgences," but changed my mind because I don't think a good bra (or several good bras) is an indulgence; it is a building block of good fashion, comfort and self-image!

I also once paid a lot of money for a pair of jeans (Oprah said this particular brand can make anyone look good!) and maybe a pair or two of shoes--and I think that's okay! That's why we scrimp and save, right? So we can splurge for the things that we really want--and dare I say, deserve.

What have you splurged on that you don't regret?